Evil Eyes Release Week - Recognizing a Stalker!
Is there a guy interested in you? Are you giving him one signal and he's interpreting that to mean something else all together? Does this guy ignore your firm "no" or see through your excuses about being busy?
Not to throw you into a panic, but these are some of the first signs of a stalker.
What other signs are there?
- Expressions of helplessness. The "I can't live without one night with you" or "I just don't understand why you won't go out with me." or even "Can you please help me figure out how to cook crème brule?"
- Over-interpreting what you say or do. Tucking your hair behind your ear elicits whispers of "sexy" where no one else can hear. Walking past him in the grocery store or parking lot sends a silent signal that you're interested. A "no" means "later."
- Socially isolated. He never seems to have a life. He's always around. She can't wait to see you in the morning, afternoon, evening. Her calendar is always open.
- Overly-dependent on you only. No one else can change her flat tire. She uses your shoulder to cry on when anything goes wrong. He never has a date for an "important family event." Only you can fix his printer jams.
- A history of violence or relationship abuse. Her former boyfriend "dissed" her and she had to key his new car. His last girlfriend liked to use him as a "punching bag" so he had to retaliate, and the "bitch" cried domestic violence. He has to attend anger management classes because "she" lied to the cops.
- Alcohol or drug abuse. He always closes the local hangout. She needs pain killers for an injury from years ago. He is the life of the party, until he stumbles outside so drunk he can't see the door. She is always nodding off, always popping a pill for one reason or another.
- Actual or threatened suicide attempts are especially dangerous for YOU (he has nothing left to lose). He can't take our rejection any longer (holds an object over his heart). She can't live without out (panicked phone call threatening to end it all).
There are more signs. More warnings of danger, and ways to avoid them, at this website: http://www.crime-safety-security.com/Stalker-Warning-Signs.html
What about the mysterious phone calls with no one on the other end? The heavy breathing or the "playful" tap certain numbers with a message only he or she understands?
Do you have a person on your social media sites who is always popping up? Do they ask personal, inappropriate questions? Are they always there when you're online?
Is this person wherever you go? Can't visit your favorite restaurant any longer because they have the best seat for watching you? You now shop across town for groceries to avoid her presence in the produce section?
Are these signs of a stalker? This website has thoughts on that: http://www.bukisa.com/articles/271607_recognizing-a-potential-stalker
Having a stalker isn't something you laugh off. There are resources to go to in order to stop the person. Your local police or sheriff's department can provide more answers.
However, if you have a cyberstalker, the stakes just went up significantly. Check out this website: http://quitstalkingme.com/2009/03/03/145/ for more answers on this problem.
KC Sprayberry started writing young, first as a diarist, and later through an interest in English and creative writing. Her first experience with publication came when she placed third in The Freedoms Foundation at Valley Forge contest while in the Air Force, but her dedication to writing came after she had her youngest child, now in his senior year of high school.
Her family lives in Northwest Georgia where she spends her days creating stories about life in the south, and far beyond. More than a dozen of her short stories have appeared in several magazines. Five anthologies feature other short stories. She has three books that are Amazon best sellers: Softly Say Goodbye, Who Am I?, and Mama's Advice. Her other novels available are: Take Chances, The Ghost Catcher, Family Curse … Times Two, Secret From The Flames, Where U @, The Wrong One, Pony Dreams, and Grace.
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His eyes scare the life out of her. They're dead, soulless, compelling. She can't move, no matter how much she wants to.
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