Evil Eyes Release Week - Restraining Orders!
My only experience with a restraining order for an individual who was stalking me was poor. The police didn't want to get involved, claiming it wasn't serious enough to warrant even speaking to the individual concerned about violating the court order. There was an almost apathetic response when I demanded a report be made, and the individual be brought in front of a judge to answer as to why they couldn't obey the demand that they abide by my privacy.
Do I believe a restraining order will help in a stalker situation today? Unfortunately no, I don't. I don't think the police ever take these things seriously, until the situation explodes into a situation where people are injured, forced to leave the place they call home, or worse.
There are mixed messages when it comes to a restraining order to keep your stalker away from you. Do restraining orders work?
A few say yes. They're the lucky ones. Most say no.
Here are a few examples:
- Restraining orders are rarely effective due to the fact that the American Justice System does not take them seriously. http://www.relating360.com/index.php/how-to-stop-a-stalker-4-33970/
- Stalker gets restraining order against celebrity to "Stop Stalking Me!" http://www.tmz.com/2013/11/05/baywatch-star-alexandra-paul-restraining-order-stalker-gym-pool/
- "Get a restraining order." And prove every aspect of the case on your own. Does this really work? Most people who have been stalked say no, if they're around to say no. http://voices.yahoo.com/how-prove-stalking-case-court-law-7294636.html
- How to get rid of a stalker? This site - http://www.examiner.com/article/relationships-101-how-do-you-get-rid-of-a-stalker - offers good advice, but does it really work? Most people who have gotten a restraining order might argue.
How do restraining orders fail?
There are stalking laws in every state now, yet stalkers constantly ignore this "piece of paper." They continue to harass their victim, for whatever reason they've contrived. Far too many women now believe that this "piece of paper" is nothing more than something to plaster to their wall, as proof they have a reason to protect themselves.
There are other ways to protect yourself from a stalker. Self defense classes are a good beginning. Carrying mace and being willing to use it is another way to protect yourself. Any kind of weapon will work to be honest. The best protection, however, is being aware of where you are and who is around you every minute is the only thing that you can rely on.
Call the cops whenever you see your stalker close. Get the restraining order, but be prepared for the worst outcome. Only you can ensure your stalker doesn't win this war of wills.
KC Sprayberry started writing young, first as a diarist, and later through an interest in English and creative writing. Her first experience with publication came when she placed third in The Freedoms Foundation at Valley Forge contest while in the Air Force, but her dedication to writing came after she had her youngest child, now in his senior year of high school.
Her family lives in Northwest Georgia where she spends her days creating stories about life in the south, and far beyond. More than a dozen of her short stories have appeared in several magazines. Five anthologies feature other short stories. She has three books that are Amazon best sellers: Softly Say Goodbye, Who Am I?, and Mama's Advice. Her other novels available are: Take Chances, The Ghost Catcher, Family Curse … Times Two, Secret From The Flames, Where U @, The Wrong One, Pony Dreams, and Grace.
Lisa is so ready for a break from the grueling first semester of college. Along with five other friends, she returns to Landry, and hopes to have nothing but fun. Within days, one of the group is the victim of a vindictive stalker, and Lisa herself is now in the man's sights. No matter what she does, she can't shake this person.
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On Christmas Eve, Lisa has to fight for her life and sanity after Fred kidnaps her. She turns out to be very different from the other women, in a way he never figured.
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Lisa occupies Fred's mind now. Lisa is his new girlfriend. Lisa will soon know this.
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