A Band of Bullies
This will a bit different from my usual blog posts. Instead of speaking on the subject, which I know quite well, I’ll be speaking to the quotes about this subject…
“Not everyone has been a bully or the victim of bullies, but everyone has seen bullying, and seeing it, has responded to it by joining in or objecting, by laughing or keeping silent, by feeling disgusted or feeling interested.“ – Octavia E. Butler
This is very true. How hard is it to stand up against a bully? Are you willing to become their next target? We as humans can fail, and we do often. Far too many times, it’s easier to ignore the bullying out of fear that we will be next than to take a stand. But, once you take that stand, once you face down the bully, you may find the line forming behind you isn’t ready to attack you, but a force to be reckoned with when they make their stand against bullying.
“If you have to lie, cheat, steal, obstruct and bully to get your point across, it must not be a point capable of surviving on its own merits.“ – Steven Weber
How true this is. What is the point a bully is trying to make? Are they putting you down because they feel inferior to you? Whatever their point is, don’t give in to their bullying. As a teen, that can be difficult, because children at this age want acceptance. But they can overcome bullying by taking a stand and not allowing the problem to get out of control.
Our choices—whether or not we will be bullied. High school without friends can be lonely. And the lonely stand out. Find others that have the same interests you do. Become the group others want to join. Instead of being bullied alone, you are making yourselves envied for your ability to stand above bullying.
Be courage. Make your stand and don’t budge from it. Bullies often back down in the face of unswerving courage.
My book about a schoolyard bully is not one that includes how to deal with cyberbullies, but it does offer a solution to bullying most teens face.
Alex Starkey is a normal teenager with unfortunate initials. Initials which have been his nemesis his entire life. Initials matter when all the kids call each other by them instead using their names.
If that isn’t awkward enough, there’s Payne, who’s made a career out of bullying kids he thinks deserve it. Alex’s inits make him a target. Alex can deal with that on his own, until Payne crosses the line and tries to force him into doing things with long-range consequences. That’s when Alex stands up and faces him down.