I’ve had the great luck to meet many, many authors since I became one myself. Most are easy to get along with and wonderful people. There are a few, however, who believe their work is better than anyone else’s and they are only befriending you in order to improve their stature.
How does one know at elitist when they run into them? One of the first things you’ll notice is how they are always right and everyone else had better listen to them or they’ll make your life miserable. Even if you explain why you feel they’re wrong and are willing to have a civil conversation with this individual, you will soon discover no matter what you say, the person will be attacking you on each point. They’ll bring up this or that example as the reason you’re wrong. They’ll expound on their points until you want to agree with them to get the person to shut up.
That last point won’t work. You’ve just shown a weakness and this person will now take any and every opportunity to belittle you and your work. Their attacks will increase the more you ignore them, until you are faced with dropping them from your social media sites just to get some peace. The peace you sought won’t be lasting. You’ll hear from other friends how this person is calling you a coward and that you can’t admit when you’re wrong.
The elitist will bemoan how their book isn’t selling as well as they believe it should. They may seem to be eliciting advice on how to improve sales, but that is far from what they want. Once you fall into the trap of offering advice, you will be shot down with scathing commentary that their book should be selling, except this and that loser is messing things up for them. They’re being sabotaged at every turn by everyone in the industry. Some elitists I’ve run into have gone so far as to claim it’s a conspiracy by everyone whose book is in competition with theirs to destroy them. All the while this person will be claiming they’re going to get even and come out the winner, no matter what it takes.
How does one deal with an elitist?
Once you figure the person you’re interacting with falls into this category you need to slowly walk away from the person. Don’t like or comment on their posts. Don’t react when your name comes up in conversations as someone who isn’t a good friend. More importantly, don’t let this person drag you into their personal vendetta against the world.
About the K.C. Sprayberry
Born and raised in Southern California’s Los Angeles basin, K.C. Sprayberry spent years traveling the United States and Europe while in the Air Force before settling in northwest Georgia. A new empty nester with her husband of more than twenty years, she spends her days figuring out new ways to torment her characters and coming up with innovative tales from the South and beyond.
She’s a multi-genre author who comes up with ideas from the strangest sources. Those who know her best will tell you that nothing is safe or sacred when she is observing real life. In fact, she considers any situation she witnesses as fair game when plotting a new story.
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